fbpx

Harry's legacy

Sinead and Harry

‘I didn’t get to meet Harry but I have so much to thank him for’ Ken Blanton, Prospect Hospice psychotherapist and psycho-spiritual care lead.

Harry was the kind of guy who lit up a room. He had a big presence, he loved the gym, he loved to run, he loved his wife and family, and he was training to join the army, he didn’t talk about his feelings and then he was diagnosed with cancer and died when he was 24.

Life can be hard. Life can be unfair but out of something truly awful comes hope and a powerful legacy.

Harry’s legacy is Ken Blanton, the Prospect Hospice’s psychotherapist and psycho-spiritual care lead. Ken’s role is complex but, in a nutshell, he helps patients reconcile themselves, giving them the ability to understand the positive impact they’ve had on their family and friends around them.

Ken says: ‘Its very common for end-of-life patients to hallucinate, experience horrible dreams. Often their behaviour changes as they’re acting out through anger and fear.

This was the case with Harry. Harry’s wife Sinead says: ‘Harry was always so physically so fit, when he became paralysed, due to this illness, he was lost. Fitness had always been his outlet.’

He experienced a really dark period but then he did what he knew best and got on with it. He started to journal, write down his feelings, read self-help books, and even explored meditation. This was a new side of Harry; he would talk to me and his family about his feelings and after a long journey he found peace and joy.

Harry was a patient at the hospice on several occasions, while he was ill his family and friends set up a just-giving page for specialist treatment. Unfortunately, Harry died before he was able to benefit from the money they raised.

This took Harry’s family on a journey of soul searching, as they thought long and hard about how they could best honour Harry’s legacy. They knew the money had to be used to help people find peace and joy in their final weeks.

After meeting with Prospect Hospice, they agreed that Harry’s money could do so much good.

Sinead said: ‘If Harry had lived, he would be doing what Ken is doing now. He wanted to help people find peace and acceptance in their darkest days. To know Harry is doing exactly this through Ken, brings me enormous comfort.’ 

Harry’s Fund has enabled Ken’s role to be funded two days a week, where he offers specialist psychological and psychospiritual care to end of life patients, as well as education to the clinical staff and community.

Although Ken was never fortunate to meet Harry he says: ‘I’m so thankful that I can get to know Harry a little bit more through conversations with Sinead, his mum and dad. A huge thank you to all of them. Without them we’d be bereft.’

 

 

 

Donate